Where you put your focus becomes your experience. Don't think so? When I was a little girl, five or six, maybe, I watched the "Wizard of Oz" for the first time. My next younger sister watched, too, along with Mom and Dad. They thoroughly enjoyed the movie while I cried myself to sleep - afraid of the Wicked Witch of the West. We were all in the same room, watching the same movie on the same TV
set, eating the same popcorn. They had a great time and I was scarred for life.
What was the difference? Focus. So, you want to drastically improve your experience of life? Change your focus. Automatically, your experience of life changes. Period. No exceptions.
Easy to do? Not as I recall, no. And I have my own brand of relapses still today. But my focus today is completely different than it has ever been and continues to change and evolve, and with it, so does my experience of life. But, I'll give you this: I remember how hard it was to "take my mind off of" something or someone. Next to impossible, at least for me, for far too long a time. Until my life screamed loudly enough at me to get my attention. Yes, there have been some "pivotal" moments in my life - everyone has those. What I'm talking about is bringing an end to a continuous slide down a very steep hill to hopelessness. That "thud" when you hit bottom. Nowhere to go but sideways or straight up, and sideways sucked.
What are you looking for?